Anniversary

An anniversary is an interesting event. For most, it denotes their wedding day, and is used as a reminder that you have gone another 365 (and occasionally 366) days with the same person. Occasionally, you hear of an anniversary being celebrated at work, especially if the person has been with a company for a long time. Like 5 years. Then there is the dating anniversary.

The man and I have a debated over what constitutes an anniversary between boyfriend and girlfriend (not that an anniversary is really needed, although it does provide an opportunity to get measure your significant other on their gift giving abilities.) He feels that the anniversary is NOT the first date. Especially in today's times when one does not date exclusively until they are sure that the relationship has potential. He thinks that you should not count the time when you might have kissed someone else (which for the record happened once, within our first 3 weeks of dating. And he was a horrible kisser.)

Clearly, the anniversary is not the day you met (which can often be the same as the first date, ala jdate style) as that follows above-stated rule. Then there is the day you had sex for the first time, and that one is just too awkward to explain to the family.

Which leaves us to the date that you decided not to date other people. And is there ever really a date? How weird to have met someone in February, but not celebrate your anniversary until May, because that is when the "conversation" happened (although you didn't date anyone else?)

So what did I do? I made reservations at a top restaurant and the day we got in is our anniversary.